What is Your Relationship with Change?
A client came to me recently and noted that I had not changed in the years since we had last seen each other. Life had taken her in a few directions and she found her way back to me in a wonderful reunion but she couldn’t get over the fact that I had remained the same to her. I, of course, had changed in a few ways over that span of time because change is inevitable, but I agreed in the sense that nothing was drastically different in my life. And it got me thinking – why do we constantly feel the need to change ourselves, to evolve, to keep turning into something else, something new? So that when we see someone who hasn’t, it strikes us as odd.
I am all for growth. I, after all, teach on spiritual growth. I mentor on learning and developing on your path in this lifetime and change does come with that. But I’m talking more about this impulsive need to keep becoming something different as though the thought of staying the same is terrifying. We live in a self-improvement culture, yes. Self-improvement is a good thing. But it is valuable to look at what is driving your need to improve yourself. If it is coming from a desire to release baggage, work through traumas and adopt healthier habits, then I am a heck yes to that. But if it’s driven from an anxious need to chase something you can’t quite reach, it’s time to spend a little more time there and look at that.
On the other hand, some people have harder times accepting changes. They like the comfort and familiarity of something remaining the same. This can be tied to a pattern of not being able to let go or release ties with things that are not meant to be here forever. If this resonates with you, I would invite you to look at this patterning a little closer.
However change feels to you, I know that for me, change is meant to happen in small spurts, not in big dramatic leaps. I’m meant to remain in a more neutral state without swaying too far in different directions so that I can be that foundation and reliable sounding board for my clients. Often times, my clients are experiencing great moments of change, growth, upheaval, and emotional bumps in the road and I can serve them well by being this steady, certain anchor for them. I am the sturdy safe space they come to feel held and heard in.
You’re allowed to change at the rate that feels right for you. I invite you to look past the pressure of our world to keep becoming new and improved versions of you or changing before that feels right. Keep working on yourself, yes, but that doesn’t need to happen at rapid speed. You’re allowed to take your time, to feel into your body, to slowly integrate the lessons of this world.
Take a look at your own relationship with change. It will provide you with a lot of insight around your own behaviours, actions and responses.
And, as always, if you need that sturdy, safe space support as you navigate this, I am just a few clicks away. My readings are open for booking, with times open for mid-September.
Love and light and angelic blessings,
Annmarie
