Let's Talk About Toxic Relationships
Let’s talk about toxic relationships. Whether you’ve been in one or not, whether you’ve experienced this pull or not, this is for you. Because the biggest thing a toxic relationship can teach us is our own self worth and just how valuable our time and experiences truly are.
It can be hard, at first, to realize you are in a toxic relationship, be that with a partner, a friendship or a work relationship. Toxicity can be sneaky. It can present itself as love, as passion, as a myriad of other emotions that first come across as desirable. You may feel needed and wanted just long enough to keep you coming back for more. Is this positive or something much more manipulative? The way to determine if a relationship is toxic is to evaluate how you feel after spending time with this person. Do you feel energized, uplifted, respected, cherished? If you don’t, it’s time to explore the other side of things. Do you often feel drained, used, frustrated, disrespected? These are indicators of a toxic relationship.
The first step is realizing this - but many times even with this knowledge, we can’t always walk away, especially when it comes to romantic encounters. Toxicity can feel like a drug, pulling you in, promising you things that are false and misleading. The rush, the thrill, the devastating let down and then, repeat.
As much as you can’t walk away, the reality is you MUST. For your health, both physically and mentally and your own worth. I am here to help you break these habits and truly walk away from toxic cycles when it comes to relationships, to show you the light at the end of the tunnel. No matter where you encounter someone who does not respect your boundaries, it is important to remember, you do not owe them anything - not your time, not your energy, not your kindness, if they are not willing to offer respect to you. They may try to guilt you into feeling like you do, but you don’t. You truly do not.
Understanding that you are worth more, so much MORE than the way someone mistreats you is a stepping stone to breaking free from toxic people. Don’t get me wrong, they will always show up in your life, presenting lessons, showing you ways you need to continue to grow, but your response to them will determine how it all plays out, your response will change everything.
Saying NO, closing the door, choosing to walk away or simply not hanging around certain people will help you gain the clarity you need, showing you that life can be beautiful and fulfilled and actually quite magical with people who DO light you up, who DO respect and love you dearly, who DO hold space for you to be your truest self.
You do not have to settle for people who don’t make you feel good. If you can’t fully walk away from them, if they are, let’s say a direct family member, you are allowed to determine how much time is spent with this person while also setting the guidelines for which topics are allowed in discussion.
Ultimately, there is a lot of light and dark in this world and the more we choose people who radiate light, the more light there will be around us all. You don’t have to put up with toxic people, you are allowed to have strict boundaries and if you feel caught in the repetitiveness of a toxic cycle, I am here to help give you the tools and help you out to the other side.
May your life be filled with people who truly inspire you. May you attract in your soul family and always feel seen and supported in all the you do.
Love & Angelic Blessings,
Annmarie
